Monday, May 20, 2013

FRIENDLINESS

It has been almost a year since my reality came to include chickens.
And I continue to bee grateful for their gifts in my life.
Today, I tend to a coop of five, sweet hens.  They live directly behind
my current bedroom.  I simply walk out the room's backdoor, down outdoor
stairs and I have arrived onto a canyon canopy where they are safely kept.
On Friday, I let them out - to wander, breathe and bee of their own accord - because
ALL LIVING CREATURES REQUIRE & DESERVE SPACE TO JUST BEE.
I, however, usually find myself creating turbulence due to this belief of mine
as it goes against every tenet of our death loving, and life fearing, culture.
And, c'est la vie.
There are some edges that I am just willing to push - even in the face of the likely condemnation, "No's," "That is bad," and "You are wrongs."
Right and wrong are simply a human construction.

Yesterday at work, I told a little girl that she was being a good child because of how patient she was with her mother in our store.  Immediately, I wanted to take back my words, to fling myself at the girl child and let her know that she is always "good" even when she is told she is "bad."  I withheld, however.

My altar has returned, and I now sit perched before it.  It's wisdom speaks to me through various conduits.  Last night, I pulled the 2 card from the Minor Arcana of my Osho Zen Ta'rot cards and this is what it said:

"FRIENDLINESS:
First meditate, be blissful, then much love will happen of its own accord.  Then being with others is beautiful and being alone is also beautiful.  Then it is simple, too.  You don't depend on others and you don't make others depend on you.  There is always a friendship, a friendliness.  It never becomes a relationship, it is always a relatedness.
You relate, but you don't create a marriage.  Marriage is out of fear, relatedness is out of LOVE.
You relate; as long as things are moving beautifully, you share.  And if you see that the moment to depart because your paths separate at this crossroad, you say goodbye with great gratitude for all that the other has been to you, for all the joys and all the pleasures and all the beautiful moments that you have shared with the other.  With no misery, with no pain, you simply separate.

In this card the branches of two flowering trees are intertwined, and their fallen petals blend together on the ground in their beautiful colors.  It is as if heaven and earth are bridged by LOVE.  But they stand individually, each rooted in the soil in their own connection with the earth.  In this way, they represent the essence of true friends, mature, easy with each other, natural.  There is no urgency about their connection, no neediness, no desire to change the other into something else. 

This card indicates a readiness to enter this quality of friendliness.  In the passage, you may notice that you are no longer interested in all kinds of dramas and romances that other people are engaged in.  It is not a loss.  It is the birth of a higher, more loving quality born of the fullness of experience.  It is the birth of a LOVE that is truly unconditional, without expectations or demands."