So, last week, my beloved business partner referred to me as a "Sacred Sexuality Muse" and it got me thinking. I would really like to clarify...
because, you see, "Sacred Sexuality" is less about the actual act of intercourse and more about where we find ourselves - in space and time, as human be-ings on this great starship, Earth - n-o-w.
Remember how we all loved last winter's blockbuster, "Avatar?" We talked about it here on the Internet and in conversational circles around the country. We even had Avatar-themed parties where people painted their whole selves blue, came together in intention and madly danced for a world teetering on a brink. For some reason, we were MOVED to rally together, and all because of a James Cameron film that made billions of American dollars worldwide. Something in this movie hit home - something touched us, deeply and on a primal level.
The story itself is simple. It's a refrain that has been sung throughout human history. A dark side, corrupted by greed, anger and technology, will not alter its destructive course until all light, wisdom and truth has been consumed. The light side, on the other hand, is willing to sacrifice everything, including itself, for the highest vibration of the whole. In the early-mid twentieth century, we called it "The Hobbit." In the 70s and 80s, it was "Star Wars." Are these merely fantastical creations of the human imagination? Foreboding chronicles of an ever unfolding present? Or, psychic visions of a future that is yet to come? Who knows? (I sure don't.)
What we do recognize, however, is how significantly a role archetype plays in these timeless tales. We know these characters from our childhood: the bloodsucking Vampire & his victim, the angelic Virgin; the all-seeing, benevolent God and his co-creator, the life-forming Earth Goddess; the cunning Destructress who severs man's ego with a graceful, quick slice and her masculine counterpart, the champion warrior Shiva who defends his life, his love and his territory until his very last breath. We are all of these. These invisible others form our collective, human consciousness. They make up our ancestral whole - our past, present and future combined. And, I believe, they are essences that we each must be able to harness and know NOW. For our very future depends on it.
And this is where my path will verge from that of David Deida, sacred sexuality provacateur. I have been investigating Deida's work primarily through my relationship with others who have had direct contact with both him and his books. Although I enjoy the work Deida endeavors - especially with American men who Deida firmly teaches how to show up in the fullness of their masculinity, with their desire for freedom and an intense focus on being present to their purpose (which includes being present to the seemingly "craziness" of their female counterparts) - I think he is missing the boat in regards to where we find ourselves in this radical 21st century today. I think that, ultimately, Deida's work still erroneously divides the sexes into two sides and, as an unintentional result, continues to foster gender stereotypes.
